How we do it

The question I get asked the most is how I manage being away from my partner ninety percent of the time. 

When we started dating we were in high school, it was something without responsibility and with what was mainly a one sided relationship. We started hooking up one night at a mates house, and then we spent a weekend in a tent in Kawhia, camping illegally generally being irresponsible. But the reality of growing up could not be avoided for long, my partner though being the same age as me (okay three whole months younger) was a year below me in school, so I was heading to University where he was headed into the defense force. Thats where we hit a glitch. I was not happy to be in a relationship where he was gone, and I didn't want to stick in that kind of relationship. So we broke up for six months.  I lost myself without him, I dropped out of high school, and went to university, had my accident, forgot a lot of things. Long story short. 

We got back together, and he said from day that we were in this forever. He also said that our relationship was going to be very hard, with him being away so much. But that it would work because we were meant to be together. 

It is hard, I'd be lying if I claimed it wasn't, our relationship is based on emails, surprise phone calls, middle of the night text messages, counting down the weeks, and most of a lot of love. At the moment my partner is away for a month perhaps more.  Sometimes are harder than others, but nights are by far the hardest things I have ever faced. Especially being in a new city without him. I cry sometimes, and sometime I put his shirt (with his deodorant sprayed on it) over a pillow, and go to sleep pretending it is him. Nothing really works too well. You still miss him just as bad. 

I live with another defense force girlfriend which helps because I know she goes through it to. Its easier than having people who say "Oh I know exactly how you feel I haven't seen my partner in 2 days". It takes everything I have not to snap at those people. I can go 6+ months without seeing my partner, you know nothing. 

So basically our realationship works because we work hard to make it work, it doesn't matter how long my day has been I email him as soon as I email, or text whenever he can. If my phone rings I answer it, who knows when I'll next hear his voice. 

Gosh, I miss him so much 3.5 weeks to go, 

MrsHolly